I'm seeing that for me, there is something to this speaking up stuff...speaking up.
I have this quote on a bumper sticker....LOVE IT! |
I don't know when that changed...
I do know that these past two experiences have been calming. I can't find a better word than that.
This morning when I finished on the phone...I was a bit exhilarated but I felt resolution...I honored the piece of me that holds a strong belief in paying what I owe AND I spoke up about feeling wronged.
Just like with mom.
And in both cases
each time
at the exact moment the opposite party said, "You're right, I (we) did that..." I felt resolution.
I can hear my therapist now..."resolution isn't a 'feeling' word" how did that make you FEEL?"
Okay
I felt calm
I felt warm
I felt like the puzzle pieces fit together
maybe this is what validation FEELS like?
So now...
I just have to figure out why I tend to avoid this feeling like the plague!
xo
1 comment:
It's all about being assertive, which is so hard, and I'm so glad you were able to exercise it on not just one, but two occasions. I still find it really hard to be assertive, so it's inspiring to see that you have gotten so much from this.
Here's to more resolutions :-)
Sarah x
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